HAPPINESS

What is”Happiness”? Indeed the most confusing question having infinite vertices. It seems to be a simple word. But is it really that simple?

For some people, it may be love, for some it is their designation…many of them find it in money, while some others indulge in a few more materialistic things!

The other day, I heard one of my friends, counseling one of our depressed buddies by saying…”Happiness is not what you get, it’s what you create…” and I wondered…”Really?” Can we really convince ourselves to be happy all the time? Or is it really worth “creating” happiness in whatever we do? Oh God! What a huge bundle of these messy questions!

Well…honestly…”Happiness” is like the beautiful rainbow…having sparkling and attractive colors…with each shade trying to convey a unique message. But the most important thing that we miss out here is…that it always exists around us…but we are not really able to see it, unless there is a blend of two opposite things in nature…the water (drops) and light!!!

Similarly, even the smallest thing that we do in our daily lives, we just keep worrying about the stress (before and after it has gripped us!)…but what about the result? Why can’t we really amalgamate the result that we get with our hard-work and stress…to derive peace of mind…which I believe can make us feel “Happy”!!!

Same goes with our “Relationships”…. A few weeks back, there was Golden Jubilee Anniversary celebration in the family where I heard some elderly people discussing today’s generation and relationships! Astonishingly, all of their points were absolutely appropriate! Today’s scenario is such that…forget about 50…a couple breaks off with time as they can’t sustain for even more than 5 years…But why? Is always the guy wrong? Or today’s ambitious woman changing?

Well…the answer lies in our basic question….”What is Happiness”? Today we find couples who love their “own spaces” excluding each other. In spite of being together…they have many things to hide. Instead of prioritizing their cracked relations…they have meetings to attend. In spite of loving and devoting to each other, they have designations to be more preferred!!!

We are so badly gripped by numerous materialistic things…that emotions are stepping down in the list of our priorities. The simple definition of “Togetherness” has changed from “actually being with each other” to “being available for your partner over the phone or any other means”.

I guess those golden words also mean a lot…. But are they enough to calm down the storm of fear, anxiety, and frustration creating chaos in your soul mate’s mind? It’s just a simple act of caring, which can create infinite and endless ripples in the stagnant pool of life. These ripples of care are utmost essential to disturb the horrifying loneliness that runs too deep in this calm looking pool of life, and thus, churn out many positivities that are hidden deep down there…at the bottom!

However, in today’s extremely busy life, we don’t even care to think about these concepts, because for us, a few materialistic things suffice the need of temporary mental pleasure, and we try considering ourselves “Happy”…although we don’t bother to think about actual happiness!!!

Is it really possible for us to wake up one morning and decide… no office work to disturb…its only “our” time; or rather, just keep the appointment diary aside for a couple of days and have family time…or simply, make our respective partners feel on top of the world with our mere presence? Well, thoughts might be fascinating…but reality is…Doubtful! And yes! Is any of these acts going to solve the mystery of life? Because the question still remains the same…”What is happiness”?

 

Anuja Khanolkar