ooh a Problem!! Let’s KILL ourselves!

Not long ago we had the news channels bustling, trying to provide profound and in depth coverage about this famous actress who had hung herself in her apartment and later the fog cleared only to reveal it was a failed love affair.
A few days ago a 70 year old shopkeeper in a small town ended with the same fate because his shop in the local market was demolished for urban developmental purposes, road widening to be precise. No media coverage for you unimportant old timer!

It made me wonder,
Why does the human mind sometimes choose to end life so abruptly? There are more than a million microbes that can kill us, poisons, chemicals, war, genetic disorders, accidents and the list of endless ways to un-wantingly perish. But still there are people who race against all these grotesque competitors and not only that, they also make use of their then non working brains to find new ways of killing themselves.

Non working brains? why? well for once if they can think of a way to finish the suffering they can obviously think of a way out! and by a way out i mean to live and solve the problems they themselves created!

Outrageous it might sound to some who cherish life and its sweet nectary fruits. but Studies show people who take a step towards certain death are either the ones that have a smaller social circle or are under tremendous stress and have no room to blow off the steam.

Japan has a jungle that is called the suicide forest of japan, where people actually go to do it. judging by the number of dust laden cars in the tourist parking the government assumes the person to be dead in a few days and impounds the cars, and there have been tens of thousands of suicides in that place that its just spooky to go in on a trek. For you can see abandoned tents, ropes hanging on trees, clothes, personal belongings scattered around the woods. It has a peculiar eeriness that just spooks the crap out of every tourist. Japan arguably also happens to be a country with the most number of suicides on the planet.

It makes you wonder, people who usually opt for this easy way out- according to scientific study – are usually between the age group 14 to 34.
When we see the figures and the demographics, there are so many factors that can help us understand why does one choose this pathway.

For starters we humans are no different than ants or honeybees, we have a chain of command, we have sense of superiority, and we also strive to gain a social status. In a nutshell This social animal has a brain that is hard wired to be social, take that out with the help of unnecessary work load and aspirations that are sky high and beyond capacity, this creature called man then forgets everything else and runs behind the more tangible comforts.
Skeptics might find this a total no no but its as true as it can be. In the race to achieve something that a person cant even define and vaguely terms it as a career (monetary issues) or loose of something cherished (person or thing that one is usually very attached) or one particular person whom he or she fails to woo is usually the reason for committing suicide.

In all the above cases we see one thing in common. Focused desire. If these people can successfully focus on what they have lost then they can definitely look beyond their losses with the help of other people and fond new reasons to live.

In the U.S of A there was an experiment conducted by psychologists and what they did was, that gave puppies to a group of people who had approached a rehab for trying to commit suicide and within a year they found drastic changes in the behavioral patterns of these individuals. Moral of the story, when man changes the focus from one thing to another, it successfully diverts his mind from a path that he should not have chosen in the first place.

Our brain is a tricky little bugger, keep it occupied and it might work wonders and keep it without purpose and there are a number of ways one can fall into the pit of depression and it goes on building within like a volcano only to erupt in the future.

To even think of finishing ones own life might sound lame to 99% of the population but there is the one guy or girl who goes through tremendous amount of resolution and an immense steadfast belief that one has to do it and not to back off. Imagine a person writing a suicide note, at that point of time this person has made up his/her mind that they wont back off and this stage is what should be avoided. A resolute person who has summed it all up and is about to jump off is still in a dilemma of weather to back off or not. that itself tells us the human soul still wants to live. and we forcefully make a haphazard decision based on naive short-sightedness. It is as idiotic as slamming into a glass door, DOOR! doors can open! solutions can be found! all you have to do is find a way out.

So how can we deal with this?
As responsible human beings. What each and every one of us can be a bit more vigilant towards people around us. And keep an eye on people who might need emotional assistance or an agony aunt. people might not readily talk and open up but with a careful approach they might give in and let off some steam.

As normal people everyone needs to be more social involve as many people as you can in your daily lives, smile more, and talk more because you never know who might find your smile a reason to look forward to hope. And to those special ones among us with no hopes, Indulge yourselves in a hobby, yes any hobby, get into any lamest and wackiest hobby you can think of. It can be music to gardening or even getting a pet. Just make sure its a legal pet and not a pet that can strangle you or eat you for breakfast.
Being alive doesn’t only mean to breathe, eat twice and poop! Being alive means so much more, being alive is like walking back home from school.

Problems are like speed bumps and you are a car, go figure how many times you thought of throwing away your car into a valley just because you it a speed breaker on the road?

Point is the road never ends.

The Waterman